Song Infidelity
"The experience of" flow "(6): A New Beginning, Old Endings"
"Prosperity: The eternal flow of all what is good in life … "
By Carlos "JC" January Pantejo Copyright 2008
(Author "My Friend Yu – The Prosperity Mentor," Law Copyright August 2007. Pantejo – Yes Vurce publication).
* Below is the sixth in a series of real life events experienced by the author. The only deviations from the truth can be the names of people and places. These stories are also incorporated in "My Friend Yu – Prosperity Mentor: Book II," Pantejo – Yes No Vurce Publication. Release date: Mid 2008.
– The other side of the coin –
I'm sitting here at my laptop, drinking my favorite (that is currently available) Thai beer, listening to my old favorite songs Rock, and seeing Nueng prepare dinner. It always amazes me how they can be prepare banquet fit for royalty Thai every night in our small saucepan, propane tank "stove." Today, as usual, went to market, shopping for fresh foods, and is now preparing dinner for us.
She also agreed to buy whatever they needed for rest of the day and tomorrow's work day (ie, beer, phone cards, breath mints, etc.)
Wow. And to think, three months ago it was miserable! I was dealing with the deception lies, and expensive, and now ex-girlfriend. "
Living with Nueng course compare to that of his ex.
No comparison.
In fact, total opposites in almost every aspect! It's like I was finally experiencing the "other side of the coin" – the good side.
– Contrasts –
First is the appearance. All my life I prefer women with dark skin. The former was the first woman had light-skinned state with a very long time. When I first saw her, her pale skin, white does not attract me at all – especially because I am a Falang (Thai: foreigner).
I guess it's true what they say about beauty and preferences: 1) The beauty is in the eye of the viewer and 2) People prefer the opposite of what they see every day.
For example, Asia is predominantly populated by people of brown skin, white skin, but is almost always better than dark skin.
Anyone who has spent time in Asia (Thailand, Philippines, Malaysia, Singapore, etc) has noticed how the local population, especially children and women scurry around trying to avoid the sun. Any form of skin whitening products (eg soap, shampoo, facial cream, body lotion, deodorants, antiperspirants, etc.) is available – and popular – in all stores in Asia.
You see, in Asia, white skin is considered more beautiful than dark skin – all the opposite of most Western countries. The reason for this? My guess would be the Economic and Social implied condition: In Asia, dark skin immediately conjures up visions of the poor, uneducated, rural people working hard under the hot sun, while his fellow rich, white skin with rich relatives in closed with a college education and work, away from all the tanning rays.
In contrast, most Westerners look for dark skin (Both for themselves and their peers). Go to the beach and pay exorbitant fees in the tanning salon. In the United States in particular, tanned skin means that you are financially well enough to spend much time outside in the sun, play volleyball, golf, tennis, etc.
For the same socio-economic reasons, a dichotomy similar views that exists on the body type: Westerners prefer thin figures, while Asians prefer people with a bit In other words, in Asia, "The flesh of your bones." thinness may be associated with poverty, while some fat means you have enough money to eat well.
Nueng has beautiful skin, brown – skin type that most tourists look for in places like Hawaii, Guam, and Bali. Nueng is about 5 '5 ", where the former just 5 ' 1 "tall.
Nueng athletic and sexy body is strong, reflecting their education "up country" – ". Isaan" in the region northeast of Bangkok, where people identify themselves as Isaan Thailand are regarded as hard working and fun loving, satisfied with a simple lifestyle that Bangkok sophisticated counterparts. They are also dark-skinned.
Isaan traditional life requires a great amount of daily physical labor, work that exceeds the effort required for most American farms
Nueng juxtaposed with the former was small and ultra-feminine, and fragile. She came from a city Laos and was not used to a lot of manpower. I still remember their complaints about up and down the stairs in my house.
– Domestic –
Nueng comes from a large family: three "Pee Chia" (Thai: the older brother / s), two "Luk Chai" (younger brother / s), and "San Nong" (Younger sister). Without "Sao Pee" (older sister) to help her and her mother in the housework of their extended family, the Nueng learned early how to cook, cleaning, laundry and care for younger siblings.
She was very hardworking. At age 7, Nueng came home from primary school and then clean the house of a neighbor late at night. This was done for 60 baht per day (the equivalent of U.S. $ 1.70). As an adult, who was the breadwinner for her and lazy, "no work, no money "boyfriend. She washes and irons clothes for others, cooking in a local food stand, and serve drinks at a local bar – while maintaining its own domestic labor and cooking.
Needless to say I have never lived so happily and clean since I've been in Thailand. Our house is always spotless. My clothes always smell fresh and Press expert. And, as mentioned before, I like home cooked meals fit for a King almost every night (except when I take her to dinner on weekends).
Compare again.
The ex-girlfriend was pretty lame in domestic service. I was the one who usually do the laundry and washed the dishes. I always did the ironing. I cleaned the condo we lived in when we met (and then clean the house before we moved to separate).
Working 50-60 hours a week and doing all the housework, laundry, paying bills and left me chronically exhausted.
What did the ex-girlfriend all day while working? I'm not sure, but I guess most of his time was spent sleeping, watching TV, or cavorting with friends, or, as I discovered later, perhaps even hidden in a secret date with one of his men.
I'm not a sexist. In fact, like most falangs in Thailand, which usually share in all household responsibilities. It's just that I was always so tired working long hours, then return home to "work." And then a few months of "insinuating" I realized that domestic work was not the former strong.
The resentment grew slowly. Finally, I threw subtly through the window, semi-feigned anger, and basically told him off his lazy butt and help me.
This tactic only worked for two or three days. He returned to the old routine cleaning and stir it every morning for something more appropriate for work and finally finish washing clothes for myself – again.
Looking back, there was always the hope that she (the ex-girlfriend) would change. I mean, I did not want a "clean" but a fair and equitable sharing of household chores made my life much easier. I guess I was asking the former to do something that was not used to (or even capable de).
Now, with Nueng, just thumb a lift home. She even scolds me if I try to do something that she feels it is "their responsibility." What change! I'm not tired all the time now. Nueng doing her thing while I'm at work, so we can enjoy good weather, quality time together when I get home. What a change, indeed!
Yes, life in "The Flow" is wonderful. My days are filled with laughter, smiles, love and beauty.
I thank the original substance (God) every day Nueng and I decided to end our old relationships and start again …
(Continued in "Experiences 'The Flow' (7) – Living Well: friendship, loyalty, Finance, and Family)
"Until next time, find "The flow and Jump In!"
Your friend in this journey called life Intrepid
Carlos "JC" Pantejo
Note: If you want read more on overcoming anxiety, unconditional love, exorcising past personal demons, and the Illusive Secret of Happiness, please read the following articles:
"The experience of" flow ": From Heartbreak to Happiness"
"Experiences from 'The Flow' (2): Coincidence or Synchronicity: a relapse, to miracles … "
"The experience of" flow "(3): LOST AND FOUND – Kindred Spirits and mistakes made in haste. "
"The experience of" flow "(4): Lost and Found – Destined to be?"
"The experience of" flow "(5):" The Stray "
"How dare you!" Out of desperation they learned to forgive "
"Remember who you are!"
"The need to heal your broken heart? Read on. Overcoming anxiety and learning the Illusive Secret of Happiness. "
(By Carlos "JC" and the keyword Pantejo published online at all: [Title of Article] or "Carl Pantejo)
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About the Author
About the Author:
He is a retired U.S. Military veteran. Believing that school was too boring, he dropped out of High School early; only to earn an A.A., B.S., and MBA in less than 4 years much later in life – while working full-time as a Navy/Marine Corps Medic. In spite of a fear of heights and deep water, he free-fall parachuted out of airplanes and performed diving ops in very deep, open ocean water. He went to Thailand 1 year ago for a week’s vacation, fell into a teaching job, and has never left!
Carl “J.C.” Pantejo
Pantejo@ynvurcepublishing.com
Founder, Y.N. Vurce Publishing
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