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Loose monogamous SERIES – WHAT WE CAN DO to stop them?

The United Nations statistics show a trend of divorce rates increasing in many countries in recent years. The divorce rate has risen in many countries in Europe and America, but now many Asian countries are gaining ground. The divorce rate in Korea, for example, ranks third in the world.

Many factors influence the decision to divorce or separate. Some the reasons spoken in the literature are personal preference, age, gender, cultural norms and social customs, economic opportunities, and institutional rules, for example, family policies of marriage and divorce.

Trends in marital instability vary by country, however, a distinction striking is the difference in trends.

When you analyze relevant independent variables such as age, sex, employment and education are analyzed in relation to marital instability for each country. In addition, local economic indicators and development is a pattern that these factors influence the likelihood of being divorced or separated differently for men and women.

The highest degree of divorces occur in married women working and the percentage of non-agricultural labor. Both variables represent not only what appear to represent their face value, but also great social changes in the way in which families live and interact with their environment

Changes in women's roles in society and advances in economic development seem to follow a similar trend of increase of divorces and separations.

The percentage female labor force participation was married in a local geographic region is associated with an increased likelihood of being divorced, both men and women and is associated with a decrease in the separation of women and an increase in the separation of men. Those with less than a high school education are more likely separated and less likely to divorce than those with the equivalent of a high school education. And finally, local economic development plays a role. Superior in developing a local geographic area is associated with an increase in both divorce and separation.

Monogamy is the state of have only one husband, wife or sexual partner at any time. The word monogamy comes from the word Greek monos meaning "?????", one or alone, and the Greek word meaning hieros "?????", marriage or union. In many cases, the word "monogamy" is used to refer specifically to marital monogamy.

Social monogamy refers to two people / creatures that live together have sex with, and cooperate in the acquisition of basic resources like food, clothing and money.

Sexual monogamy refers to two people / creatures who remain sexually exclusive with each other and have sexual partners outside.

Genetic monogamy refers to two partners only have children together.

Marital monogamy refers to marriages of only two people.

Monogamy series is characterized by a series of long or short term, exclusive sexual relationships entered consecutively during life. This does not refer to a variety fifth of monogamy on the four main types, but is a type of monogamy that can describe any of the four varieties.

In common usage refers to humans, the two partners need not be married, but may be involved in a monogamous sexual relationship. This behavior is sometimes referred to as a way to, or replacement of polygamy.

In animal sexuality, serial monogamy often means that the animal will have a different, but exclusive of each partner breeding season mating. In general, animals do not mate with one partner for life can be considered monogamous, including finding a mate second only after the former's death.

Serial monogamy has always been closely linked to divorce practices. Each time the procedures for obtaining a divorce have been simple and easy, serial monogamy has been found. As divorce has continued to become more accessible, more people have made use of it, and many go on to remarry. It has been suggested, however, that high mortality rates in past centuries made much the same result as divorce, allowing re- married (one of the spouses) and therefore serial monogamy.

A serial monogamous is a person who has many sexual partners in his life, but only once at a time. The series apparently monogamous form what is seen as a lasting commitment to one person, but the commitment is usually only superficial. Some are incapable of serial monogamous commitment over an extended period of time.

Membership in the relationship may be through marriage or boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. Usually, the serial monogamous pattern is aware that he or she follows. Each relationship can be entered in a how long This last part of the mind.

The series is usually monogamous fully aware of his inability to commit fully to another. This does not mean that standard monogamous is not intended to confirm, but it seems that the compromise is not something that feels comfortable. Compared to serial monogamy, monogamy is a real state in which keeps one person to another for his entire life.

In the western world, true monogamy is becoming less and less common. Today we see that most couples who never separated in three years. Serial monogamy may stay with their partners for that period of time or more. It is a source of frustration for some serial monogamous have been marked with this title. The serial monogamous relationships can last longer than some marriages.

Fear of commitment and perfectionism play a significant role in the mind of serial monogamous. It also influences a child plays an important role. bad role models give parents an inherent fear serial monogamous commitment. They are unable to cope with the pressure of the family unit for long periods of time and eventually seek independence once again. If society begins to show problems similar to those witnessed in childhood, then no longer reflect the monogamous ideal the series has in its head.

Many people think they can be one to change the serial monogamous way of thinking. This is sometimes a futile effort. The pattern of serial monogamy is often so established that the monogamous series can predict the month or year in which the rupture occurs. Nobody seeks to end a relationship willingly unless there are problems. For some serial monogamy, fear commitment is beyond their control.

Some people argue that serial monogamy is a psychological problem. They believe the only way to against the serial monogamous state of mind is through counseling. Other people believe the term is monogamous in series excuse. Can be used as a way for people to give weight to their inability to sustain a relationship. Whether or not a psychological problem, serial monogamy is not usually a mood more People are happy to live with forever.

People comment on the subject of serial monogamous

I finally found the answer my lack of the latter relationship. A wonderful 2 + year relationship with a man I'm still in love with, even though we are separated. He has had several relationships long-lasting monogamous in the 20 years since her divorce. He finished it, using my head and not my heart, because I found when I really needed it after an injury to the depth of your care just was not there, is not capable of 'normal' emotions associated with a relationship. I challenged him and if so who were happy to the rest of his life as he does not want to end up with someone who has the responsibility to care for him when he is old – ultimately, I think this is because he is unable to do the same for the person in your life

I had a brief, intense relationship of three months with a man who actually said, "my therapist called me a serial monogamous. "What was I thinking? Esp when I met his new girlfriend in a well-known website and discovered that it is carried to the same places, saying the same things, creepy! Poor girls before and after me! I'm glad I have "dumped" when I did. We must always maintain our friendship as the date, even if they are only, you never know who is going to find. It was hard, terrible, life changing, but I've learned a lesson.

I guess I would call a serial monogamous. I've only had short term relationships. Only recently graduated from high school and dating the world is all I know. You know when you're with someone who spends all his time with them? Even if it's just hanging out in the so-so is the house watching films. I've always been the one to break off and my friends can usually tell when I'm going to do before me. I tend to exhibit the same symptoms again and again. Some say it's because they have not found the one, others say I have commitment issues. I think both are true. But at some point I would like to change my lucky ways. I live in a fairly small neighborhood, and my reputation has begun for me to continue. Now it seems that any man I date only because they fear being another number on my list

Yes, it might be better for the monogamous in series to go through life at a rapid pace without having "legal complications" but have you ever thought about people who are left behind in their path of destruction? These people often experience rejection to a point that is contaminated his own image. I know, I just came out of that relationship ", where I am the victim of a serial monogamous. It hurts me, I can not even begin to describe to you. So that, yes, there is a great advantage in the conduct of this lifestyle, but only to the serial monogamous himself. No one enjoys the benefits associated with this type of lifestyle

I do believe I am a serial monogamous and I wonder if that's why they tend to choose men who could also be considered polygamous in series. I tend to always be in relationships and despise cheating, however, after a pause, "I'll say" I'll be alone for a while and enjoy of justice. "and then within two weeks to three months I am in a relationship again. My longest relationship has only been 5 ½ years somewhere around 7-8 months. I recently entered a new relationship, this time only three months after the divorce of a marriage of five years. I do however want this one to last "forever", whatever it is and think that maybe you should seek psychological help to enable it. Wow, the revelation is quite surprising, but it helps me visualize the problem and hope that I can find a solution.

I was just dumped what I consider a serial monogamous after nearly four years. My boyfriend was the best in many respects with the exception of the inability to communicate deeply and show what I would consider real emotion at all others it was the best man ever, which is what makes the break even harder. His father is now primary at number five, while his father was emotionally and verbally abusive seconds so I'm told by his mother. What effect does this have on an individual who initially said they wanted to spend the rest of his life with me?

I am a serial monogamous. I'm not the least ashamed of it either. I did, however, discover a little late, I had Two marriages and had supported not just emerged from a third party. Now that I know was only married because society told me I should, I left to get married – makes life easy. Also, if you tell the other person entrance fee is well with you long term, but not "forever please" which tend to have relationships very satisfactory for this purpose amicably for both.

I am a serial monogamous and I'm not the least happy for that fact and I guarantee it's not an excuse. Always things have gone to the feelings of "this could be the one" and as mentioned in the article …. never is. So I keep crying, indecisiveness of "what if I'm giving up too soon" and then you get sucked into the war of the polarities of 10 years. Constantly ask, "Why can not be the one …. Why do I have to go through this nightmare again? "My condition has become quite explosive since my divorce four years ago in which I've only had one relationship since then, culminating in seven months. No matter how I try never works for an independent woman, self-sufficient, safe and sober. Why Why am I unable to have a good relationship, happy and healthy with the opposite sex? Why is it always a problem? I would like nothing more than to nest and have a loving husband …. I see that ever happening though? No. .. no. not for me. I have come to terms that I am not one of the lucky ones who never get the companion the soul and commitment of a lifetime. I accept the best I can, I have my head as high as possible and I am just on.

Many people fall into this description general no intention of being a serial monogamous. Many people enter a relationship with the intention to be "the one" … but then find (by any reason) that the relationship will not last. So go ahead, or are left with the idea that the next could become correct. To some extent, This is the process that dates back to many people when they are young and single, hoping to find someone who is a setting "good." In truth there are a number of people with whom one might be with, except in our modern culture, divorce, and ligand, are considered more acceptable. Therefore, it becomes monogamony series more frequent.

It is my goal to be a serial monogamous. Why I want to be a person committed to my life? Once I would get bored relations be able to move forward without any legal implications and so on. I do not see how serial monogamy may be seen as a problem. Should be encouraged live this way because it is more realistic to live this way to commit to one person all your life.

People who need psychological help are those who decide stay in a relationship fraught with difficulties "for the children" or because they can not admit that the relationship has run its course. Since we all have a limited number of years here, I see the wisdom in staying with a partner who is not love and not just because society says you have a psychological problem if they do not. My parents have been married for over 35 years and I'm pretty sure about 20 of them spent unhappy. Now they are so old they have no choice but to remain together until one of them can escape through the death of the other. No, thanks. You can keep your commitment for life things for yourself.

global trend divorce rate

U.S.: People are afraid of marriage over divorce

Around 59% of the U.S. population of 300 million married. Although over 90% of adult Americans forward to married life, divorce rates are still very high. During the 1950s, over 90% of married couples who stay together for ten years or more, but in the 1990s, this percentage has fallen below 50%. In recent years, many older adults have been divorced after the age of 60 or even 80 years of age.

Experts U.S. says there are many reasons for the increase of divorce, even extending life for people, new generational values, and the growing economic independence of women. Another reason is that it is easy to divorce in the United States. In recent years, as the economy has struggled and have become jobs harder to find, younger Americans are not willing to marry so quickly and those who are married are not so quick to divorce.

Korea: divorce rate ranks third in the world

As the Korean government statistics, the divorce rate in Korea is growing at an average rate of 0.5% per year. In the last ten years, the total number of divorces has increased almost threefold. Ie of 1,000 pairs, 2.8 of them divorce, making divorce rate of Korea the third highest in the world after the United States and the United Kingdom.

There are several reasons the divorce rate in Korea is so high, but the main reason is disagreements between the mother-in-law and wife. A representative of the family courts in Korea dealing with divorce cases was in the record to say: "Divorce cases always increase after Mid-Autumn Day, New Year and summer holidays because couples have more likely to fight to go home in the statutes. And then once there, because the problems between the mother-in-law and wife become two of pronounced, someone ends up requiring a divorce. "

Another factor that has led to increased divorce rates is a change of values.

More women are initiating procedures divorce or separation. 66.7% of divorces in 2003 were initiated by women, compared to 30.6% by men. Among the reasons cited for divorce, 46.4% of divorces occur because the husband or wife is having an affair.

To curb the rising divorce rate, the government has adopted certain measures that have proven be effective. In March 2005, the Seoul Family Court implemented a mandatory "cooling off period" and counseling session that couples must complete before seeking a divorce ..

India: divorce rate twice as high as ten years ago

In India, There are no official statistics on divorce rates because of the large rural population and incomplete records, but it is widely acknowledged that the divorce rate has increased considerably.

Young couples who divorce is one of the leading causes of divorce rates have increased. The phenomenon of "marriages of family group is also noteworthy. In rural India, marriages between the families are very common. For example, siblings of one family marrying sisters from another family, at the same time. In a situation like this, once a marriage ends in divorce and leads to the deep enmity between the families, all marriages tend to end in divorce.

According to a recent survey, more educated a woman, unless she cares about getting a divorce.

Germany: Legislation more difficult to divorce

Divorce rates in Germany have remained high in recent years without sign of abating. Statistics show that over 200,000 couples divorced last year. Most divorcing couples have been separated for the last six years of marriage and in the seventh year shall begin divorce proceedings. The German press has blamed this on increased rates of unemployment cause unhappiness in marriage.

A "divorce" in German society, economy has become popular in the magazines related to divorce, businesses, bars, and television programs have added more fuel to the fire. A famous marriage counselor has expressed concern with the appearance of this phenomenon saying, this would probably encourage more people to separate from their partners. A German expert on marriage law, said, "people are entitled to obtain a divorce, but should not abuse this right. First, those who wish to divorce should consider their responsibilities towards the elderly, children, family and society. The fact is, because people are so hasty divorce, the problems of single parents, caring for the elderly and education of children have become crucial social problems.

In response, the German legislator is trying to pass a law that makes it harder to get a divorce. Divorce is not encouraged by government. Once the husband wants to divorce his wife must give half of their income for the rest of his life.

Brazil: Single girls looking married men

The divorce rate in Brazil has doubled since 1985. Many experts believe that this is due to the abolition in 1988 a law that only men could have two divorces in his life. Now, they can marry and divorce as often as they wish.

Sociologists believe that attitudes toward divorce have changed. In the past, women who divorced their husbands were looked down upon. Now, Brazilian women believe that if a woman suffers from Domestic abuse is a shame that it remains with him. Statistics show that 73% of divorces and separations are initiated by women. In addition, infidelity is another reason for the breakdown of marriages. A psychologist, Mr. Louis, says that in Brazil there is a strange phenomenon of single girls looking for married men.

In order to maintain social stability, the Brazilian law states that married couples must wait two years after his marriage to get a divorce. They must live apart for two years. The law also stipulates that individuals must wait two years after a divorce to remarry.

China: The rapid growth of divorce rates

According to statistics from the Department of Administration Civil China, 341 000 married couples divorced in 1980, 800,000 in 1990, 1.21 million in 2000 and 1.331 million in 2005. From these numbers it is clear that divorce is a tendency growing in China.

Xu Anqi, an analyst at the Academy of Social Sciences in Shanghai and research director at the China Association for Women and Families says the reason for the growing number of divorces in China is multifaceted. First, society is going through a transitional period, which is what affects seriously the stability of marriages. Secondly, people living increase standards have higher expectations toward marriage and love. A third reason is, simplification of procedures for marriage and divorce has reached a divorce much easier.

Xu Anqi believes that high divorce rates in certain areas do not necessarily unhappy marriage and society is unstable. A survey of couples revealed that people are happier in an open field with the laws looser divorce. This is because couples with problems can be separated and have stable marriages are more emotionally satisfied, which is beneficial for an order social harmony.

Xinxin Chen of the Institute for Women's FNM (National Federation of Women of China) also believes that improvements in women's social situation has led to increased divorce rates. When women are more independent economically and spiritually, are no longer considered socially inferior, and this is a reflection of women's liberation and social progress.

(Source: Global Times)

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He has a background as civil engineer and geoscientist. He has worked mainly within the oil and gas industry from the mid 1980s. He has written a few fictional novels as well as being the author of some professional litterature within oil and gas sector, he is now an editor of some web sites.

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